A young woman
went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were
so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and
wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It
seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took
her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each
on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed
carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed
ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a
word.
In about twenty
minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and
placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a
bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me what you see" "Carrots,
eggs, and coffee," she replied.
Her mother
brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and
noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to
take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed
the hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip
the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then
asked, "What does it mean, mother?"
Her mother
explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity -
boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong,
hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling
water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its
thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after
sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The
ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the
boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?"
she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do
you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"
Think of this:
Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and
adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that
starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have
a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship
or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell
look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff
spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the
coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very
circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot,it
releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when
things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation
around you.
When the hour is
the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself
to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an
egg or a coffee bean?
May you have
enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you
strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you
happy.
The happiest of
people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make
the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest
future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go
forward in life until you let go of your past failures and
heartaches.
When you were
born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. Live your
life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone
around you is crying.
You might want to
send this message to those people who mean something to you (I JUST
DID); to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to
those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make
you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to
those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so
meaningful in your life.
It's easier to
build a child than repair an adult.
This is so true -
may we all be COFFEE....